tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8269120272474965191.post1270510593392217426..comments2023-07-02T06:52:41.569-07:00Comments on notes, tales and observations: How can we live past today?Rosaria Williamshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03133147851332084180noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8269120272474965191.post-50512966731184979812011-09-28T14:05:10.968-07:002011-09-28T14:05:10.968-07:00I got here via Helen's blog and would echo her...I got here via Helen's blog and would echo her comment. I cannot conceive of anything worse than losing a child... and (I get the impression) you still have to endure a court case! How awful for you!Stafford Rayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03048757515249725540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8269120272474965191.post-78803401615023272642011-09-19T15:23:06.540-07:002011-09-19T15:23:06.540-07:00seeing you))) feeling you)))
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erinseeing you))) feeling you)))<br /><br />xo<br />erinerinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16636371927224076866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8269120272474965191.post-29539374038587437372011-09-19T09:58:51.072-07:002011-09-19T09:58:51.072-07:00Brian was EVERYTHING you described. He was an AWES...Brian was EVERYTHING you described. He was an AWESOME person... in every way. I remember those phone calls he made to you on the weekends. He always looked forward talking to you, asking for advice, bragging about an experiment, etc. You had a GOOD son.Catalina Aldridgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02551096717452018331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8269120272474965191.post-59097703056529660472011-09-18T16:29:49.176-07:002011-09-18T16:29:49.176-07:00The saddest, most profound words I read in your po...The saddest, most profound words I read in your post 'I look at young men now to see any resemblance of what mine was' ... I cannot conceive of your pain. <br /><br />Brian was the son mothers and fathers dream of having. This violent act will never make sense.Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16619199535376925989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8269120272474965191.post-79817098216581016282011-09-18T11:30:56.459-07:002011-09-18T11:30:56.459-07:00Blessings to you, Rosaria. I imagine that writing...Blessings to you, Rosaria. I imagine that writing it down is helpful. Have you thought about grief counseling or a support group? Some stuff you have to just deal with within yourself, but it might be helpful to find a group with which to share, to know that you're not alone.Miss Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13659603837343456631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8269120272474965191.post-60641063140869825912011-09-18T02:55:39.573-07:002011-09-18T02:55:39.573-07:00What a lovely and loving, vital young man. How sen...What a lovely and loving, vital young man. How senseless and horribly heartbreaking his loss. And how utterly frustrating for you to not have an understanding of how/why he died. Take one more breath, Rosaria.Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8269120272474965191.post-55351773359918317672011-09-17T22:02:59.259-07:002011-09-17T22:02:59.259-07:00What a wonderful young man your son was--a truly b...What a wonderful young man your son was--a truly beautiful soul. As you raised him to be (perhaps there is a small degree of comfort in that?). I cannot imagine your pain, I can only offer a hug...dshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07616750784052488695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8269120272474965191.post-33111953973866731112011-09-17T21:05:41.106-07:002011-09-17T21:05:41.106-07:00Rosaria,
Others have been here before me and said...Rosaria, <br />Others have been here before me and said more eloquently than I could that your Brian lives on in your words and memories of him. Had he been a different person who led a much different life, his death might not have such anguished <i> whys </i> attached to it. But what happened to him is so at odds with how he lived. How terribly, terribly sad to not only have lost him, but not to have any answers. <br />Those of us who recognize your pain cannot feel it - we hear of it and sympathize with you, but we don't live it. I hope that you will not ever feel that you can't express your pain here - we need to be reminded that although other life goes on, the person who suffers is altered in an unimaginable, permanent way. <br />Brian was obviously the kind of person who other people thought wonderful, not just those who loved him most. I'm so sorry for your broken heart.Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10892637441668897411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8269120272474965191.post-47424905613952641742011-09-17T20:08:10.105-07:002011-09-17T20:08:10.105-07:00Hugs to you, Rosaria.Hugs to you, Rosaria.Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12787493532006658679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8269120272474965191.post-28280247738066114692011-09-17T20:03:21.962-07:002011-09-17T20:03:21.962-07:00Brian must have been a wonderful person and a wond...Brian must have been a wonderful person and a wonderful son. Hugs to you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03803472040500529682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8269120272474965191.post-9401503613289593372011-09-17T19:20:17.649-07:002011-09-17T19:20:17.649-07:00Sometimes just drawing a breath is all we have the...Sometimes just drawing a breath is all we have the energy for. My chest grows tight to imagine your heart's weight, let alone the heaviness of air. Thinking of you. Your Brian was a beautiful man. It is easy to see as you paint him.<br /><br />xxamyUnspokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16065870952905767595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8269120272474965191.post-34789491296035620332011-09-17T19:06:03.394-07:002011-09-17T19:06:03.394-07:00You paint such a beautiful picture of Brian. Thro...You paint such a beautiful picture of Brian. Through your description, we can see how much you loved him, and how much there was to love and respect about him. He obviously made a difference, for you, for Janet, for his neighbors, for his friends. I am so sorry for what you must be going through.dianefaithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07229979968118248563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8269120272474965191.post-70146482980920617392011-09-17T18:10:40.890-07:002011-09-17T18:10:40.890-07:00Our world is senseless Rosaria. I don't know t...Our world is senseless Rosaria. I don't know that it was ever good, but today it is worse. The random taking of Brian's life is so horrific that I struggle in vain with trying to figure out why it had to be--for you. I remember when my husband died all of a sudden one night in his sleep, and how sympathetic people were, and then how one day they simply no longer wanted to hear from me and my pain. Somehow though we move on. We continue. And we are never the same again.<br />I am sorry. I am always here to listen. <br />My email is on my blog if you should ever want to write and talk.Rubye Jackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02511953177053448513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8269120272474965191.post-74301778260169953012011-09-17T12:43:32.743-07:002011-09-17T12:43:32.743-07:00all I can say Rosaria is this is how it is
I heard...all I can say Rosaria is this is how it is<br />I heard one of the mother's of a 911 victim on Flt 93 say....Grief is not tidy<br />Better that they ask how you are and you lie<br />than to be avoided... or your loss ignored<br />this is the otherside of love's journeySuzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10329289442910294160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8269120272474965191.post-32520646063781362212011-09-17T11:57:52.746-07:002011-09-17T11:57:52.746-07:00Rosaria...what a lovely tribute to this beloved so...Rosaria...what a lovely tribute to this beloved son of yours. Through your posts we have come to know his wonderful spirit. He has obviously left his mark..."Brian was here!" Just a few nights ago my husband and I were talking about how powerless people must feel when something happens to someone they love and they do not know "who did it," "why it was done," and have no place to direct their angst...but must remain helpless, lost in this fog of unknown and finality. My heart goes out to you and while it cannot change things, do know that through your sharing, we are all enriched.Patriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03688846429279351574noreply@blogger.com